One People

Achdus is Hebrish for “unity”.


THEM always means “goyim,” right?

Goyim means “other people”, as in not Jewish

And even though the word goy means “people” as in nationality, it’s somehow not a compliment. Similar to the way being “frum” IS a complement. We’re an “Am” (rhymes with “mom”), they’re goyim.

This way of speaking, too, has to disappear from the lips of any G-d loving Jewish person.

After all, the angels were severely chastised for singing as the Egyptians drowned while chasing the Jewish People into the Red Sea.  He cried out:

Those are MY creatures! He said. How could you sing?

Anyway, we were eating with some friends on a Friday night. The food was good, the conversation intellectual and funny. Seven adults, one teenager. This is what happens when the nest starts to empty out, but it’s good in some ways. People really let loose when kids aren’t around to hear the hypocrisy just dying to show its lovely head (lovely?).

Only this time, because these are very special, loving people, the conversation was decidedly AGAINST hypocrisy.

An American who made aliyah tells the story of a very Catholic colleague (meaning a practicing Catholic) who came to visit Jerusalem. A woman.

He took her on a tour. They stopped at a winery. We have wonderful wineries in Israel. Anyway, when a man travels with a woman in Israel it is assumed she is his wife. And if that man is wearing a kipah, it’s assumed that he is Jewish. People assume she is, too.

The tour guide, seeing that this was a married Jewish couple said, “We’re going to taste the wine later, but don’t worry! No goy has ever touched one of our bottles in the vintaging of our wine!”

My friend was mortified, rightly so.



June 10, 2007 Posted by | aliyah, Catholic, frum, goyim, kipah, lose this vocab, Uncategorized | Leave a comment


So I heard that in Flatbush, when frum (Orthodox) people buy television sets they have the sales people box their new TVs in air conditioner boxes.

That way no one knows they have bought a television.

Then people who buy new AC’s bring them home in television boxes, I guess.  And all the frummers on the block see the TV box and say, Don’t tell anyone, but the Schwartz’ just bought a new  air conditioner.  The proof’s in the alley!  They’re not fooling anyone!

Crazy, right?


June 10, 2007 Posted by | airconditioner boxes, televison, TV | Leave a comment

This is what I mean by Jews not loving Jews

When I say that Jews just need to love one another unconditionally (all of us) this is what I mean.

I have some great neighbors and there are many “frum” (Orthodox) families on this block.

One summer a new couple moved in, nice Jewish kids, not Orthodox, but “affiliated.”  I don’t even quite know what that means.

Anyway, the whole neighborhood is pretty frum, too,  so the spirit rubbed off on the new couple and they got bit by it and became “frum.”  Then everyone said (behind their backs) “Isn’t it nice that so and so are now frum?”  And the smiles meant, to me at least, now they’re like us and they’re okay.

This upsets me.  These two were okay NOT frum.  They were better than okay, they were great.  Sure, it’s wonderful that HaShem will hear more blessings coming out of more mouths and will see more mitzvahs, etc. , and I’m certainly happy they’re happy and they love yehadus (Judaism) and love learning and meeting new people, making new friends.    It’s a lovely community.  The new couple is no longer new and they seem content here.

It’s this kind of statement, “Isn’t it great that so and so have become frum(!)” that annoys me.  It makes it sound as if there is something intrinsically wrong with people who aren’t.  And if, indeed, there’s something lacking in people are aren’t frum, it is likely that they sense this kind of an attitude when they’re around it and it’s unlikely that does not inspire anyone to be frum.

I think our new couple had a If you can’t beat ’em, Join ’em epiphany.

It’s the superiority complex that bothers me.  Someone tell me I’m nuts, that really we’re all quite humble and recognize how truly pashut (simple) we all, as homosapiens, truly are.

I really don’t like thinking like this, that frum people think they’re better than non-frum people.  One of my sensitivities is hearing things the way I think others, especially those who aren’t Orthodox would hear them.

Tomorrow I’ll write about a story I heard on Shabbas about how Jews talk about non-Jews.  That’s even worse.

A nonjudgmental week to us all, shavuah tov,


June 10, 2007 Posted by | ba'al tshuva, becoming frum, dumb things people say, frum, nonjudgmental | Leave a comment